Look, I've posted a few "brief" times on this...I'm no psychologist...but gee I've seen this before.
1)Someone is a little off the rails..
2)Everyone accommodates...
3) Someone's demands/ideas/expectations are fuelled by the fact they "get there way" so keep going furtehr off rails or more outrageous in demands...
4)Everyone starts getting tired of accommodating...start "throwing in the towel" of support
5)Spouse is the last person who can/will throw in the towel
6)Spouse gets hammered now for not supporting enough and not having a go at those who "threw in the towel"
7)Spouse tries as hard as possible but can't get anywhere....Go Back to point 6) and repeat cycle
......
Inevitable conclusions....

Person who was going off the rails decides that "all of those people" don't exist!
(Did I hear Shane is thinking of moving to Qld?)
BUT everyone involved with "person" has to also "pretend" that all of the others don't exist
9) pressure on spouse builds!
10) Spouse can have bigger nervous breakdown than"person"
11) Person and Spouse have "catastrophic divorse" as all built up vitriol is "spouses fault" .."why couldn't I see this earlier that YOU were the one that did X, Y, Z"
12)...too ugly to mention
Unfortunately if someone doen't get help...A LOT OF it and at the right time, I've seen this scenarion play out WAYYY too many times...
I know we're footy fans , and we love Lance (well some of us do

) BUT these aren't trivial gossip things, they are serious life issues WITH CHILDREN involved...
As I said, just life lessons....give them space and think about your own situations