bluegirl72 wrote:
bondiblue wrote:
bluegirl72 wrote:
I woud say that handcuffing a young man and forcing him to drink is the worst kind of peer pressure,and is a form of abuse and assault..even if not sexual or directly violent.To me it is an incredibly violent act..especially mentally..but it is physical abuse also...because the kid would have been hard put to say NO for so many reasons.....and...that incident definately sickened me..and still does.
That is not to say that I wasn't p*ssed off that the other stories barely got coverage,or that they aren't in at least Hurley's case a lot more serious..
although..to the kid involved...it might have felt every bit as serious,and could have potentially been life damaging.
Who's to say.
Just started to read this thread and stopped in my tracks at your post b72.
Were you at the end of year Blues Cruise in 2009?
If not, then you are 2nd guessing and making up stories. Just adding to the Chinese whisper....
Worse of all it's making you feel sick because you are starting to believe your story and you are now visualising it.
Dangerous stuff the imagination.
How many !@#$%& times do we have to keep going over old ground? This story and associated rumours has been going on since last year...yep the same story. No one was arested, no one was killed.
Do yourself a favour and forget about it....not long till the season starts.
Hi Bondi,
I guess I was just as shocked to read your post to me.
The guy was paralleticly(had to look that up) drunk when he got off the boat...and he was hand cuffed in a drinking game.
If you don't think that happened that's fine.
if you don't think our club has a culture problem that needs addressing that's fine too.
Maybe it is all sunshine and rainbows..maybe we got rid of Fev for nothing.
I happened to think Caro wrote some stuff that is pertinent.
This is a forum where we can express our views.
Please don't tell me how or what to think..I would hope you can respect my rights if not my opinions..as I do yours.
I also don't like when people have a personal dig at Caro and call her names based on how they perceive her physical appearance.
That to me is ugly.
I don't think the boat cruise reports were fabricated or a result of chinese whispers.
They were probably a lot worse than was reported if anything.
To what extent things happened..ie even if handcuffing was brief..and just a joke...I still feel the way I do about it.
nuff said.
cheers Bondi..and yes...it will be good when the season starts.
Even better when the club unifies in a positive and professional culture..one we can all be proud of.
Fair enough, I wasn't trying to tell you what to think, but moreso to to think about those reports you have heard or read.
You make a strong point on your feelings and analysis of your feelings.
The only point I was trying to make was based on this "that handcuffing a young man and forcing him to drink is the worst kind of peer pressure,and is a form of abuse and assault..even if not sexual or directly violent.To me it is an incredibly violent act..especially mentally..but it is physical abuse also...because the kid would have been hard put to say NO for so many reasons.....and...that incident definately sickened me..and still does."
The point being:
Was he handcuffed?
Was he forced to drink?
Was it assault? Abuse?
I keep hearing this, then I read Casboult's response the day after the car crash and he didn't say any of the above took place.
I have heard about handcuffs, but no one has claimed that to be true.
I'm sorry but words like assault and abuse are very strong words, and if that's how you feel because he was handcuffed? Forced to Drink? then that's fine, but was he?
That's my point.
I empathise with your feelings and am glad you have great human qualities, but I'm not sure if the facts are yours or based on allegations made by the papers.
I want the truth, and frankly, I don't think anyone but the people whp attended the Cruise really know the truth. On this point I'm just saying don't bash yourself or the Blues based on hearsay from non friendly reporters.
You are entitled to your opinion. No doubt about that. But when someone has something bad to say about my club and it's unproven, then I should also stand up and defend my club.